How often have we as daughters said this? I thought I’d never say it until I spent a few weeks helping my mom after her surgery. My daughter pointed a few things out and it was then that she and I realized how much I am like my mom. I love my mom, and I respect her greatly. However all the years growing up we had issues that have made me who I am today. When I became a mom I tried very hard to be unlike my mother so my children would not have regrets as I had as a child. My mother never hit me, she never abused me in any way, she sewed my clothes, and did take me to some fashion shows but overall I only remember her not being there most of the time.
My mom worked full time as many other moms do today, but she also had other curricular duties she volunteered her time with such as her sorority chapter, city councilwoman, community events and meetings. These extracurricular duties kept my mother very busy and away from home.
This book relives some of these moments and how they affected me as a child and how as an adult they shaped me. I share other stories of moms and their daughters in this book as an effort for my readers to relate as they too have a story to tell. It’s not a book that bashes our moms, but simply provides opportunity for the reader to try and have a better understanding of why they are the way they are. Mothers who are going through the similar issues can prevent their daughters from being negatively affected by not having balance in their life. I’m not a stay at home mom, never have been, but I did do my best to balance my life so that my children did not have to suffer or feel neglected. There is a balance and mothers need to find what that is. Many daughters who will become mothers do not want to be like their moms, and they strive so hard to be different. But there are some things you cannot change, it’s in our DNA. There needs to be a level of acceptance, forgiveness and willingness to ensure the daughters of our future have balance in their lives too.